Awakening Wellness: Transforming Through Mindset and Movement

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Hello and welcome to Practically Magic.

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I am Courtney Pearl, your host
today, and I am a Celtic Folk Witch.

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I am a healer, emotional and
energy healer, and today we are

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going to be talking about healing
in the broad aspect of what does

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for your health and body and mind.

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And so I have invited a guest today
who will be joining me shortly.

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Shannon Golladay is a friend
of mine and also owns and

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operates her Golladay fit LLC.

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She is a personal wellness
coach and life coach.

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and certified life coach.

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And I'm very excited to have her on.

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But before I invite her in, I
would like to start our episode

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today with pulling a card.

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And today I'm going to be using the
Storyteller's Tarot deck, which I

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did get at Rising Moon Minerals.

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If you are in South Jordan or near South
Jordan, There is a cute little shop where

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you can buy your crystals, um, and crystal
grids that actually I provided them.

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And, uh, they are located right in
the Mountain View Village, not far

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from us over there in Riverton.

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So, I purchased this deck
just a few weeks ago.

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I've been learning about it, trying to
get comfortable and familiar with it.

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And Today's card that I have
pulled is the King of Scepters.

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And I love this deck because each card,
um, even in the minor arcana are, uh, are

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associated with a story or storytelling.

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And so I had to pick it up because
stories are my favorite, my favorite

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way of seeing the world, my favorite
way of understanding the world

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and my favorite way of teaching
about the world and about magic.

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So, um, what I would like you
to know about this card today

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for you listening, whenever.

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And wherever you happen to be is that this
is a card that shows sure on the centaur.

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It's the sign for Sagittarius in the
sky and the constellations and the story

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behind him is that he was accidentally
poisoned by a spear from Heracles, and it.

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because he's immortal, he was not
able to have the respite of death.

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He was just in constant and forever pain.

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And so Zeus put him in the stars
and the heavens to give him a, uh, a

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place to have respite from the pain
that he was in from being poisoned.

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And yet he.

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is a card that represents
strength in the face of something,

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an obstacle or adversity.

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And so maybe that's something that you
need to hear right now is that taking

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risks and putting yourself out there
is not necessarily a bad thing, even

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when you get hurt doing it, even when
it doesn't necessarily play out for

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you the way that you anticipated it
or wanted it to, and I am hoping that

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the efforts that you are making towards
something in your life right now, that you

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will see that it's worth the effort, it's
worth the pain and suffering that might

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be occurring as a result of going for this
particular thing that you're going for.

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You are sort of in warrior mode at
the moment, which means that you're

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going to be doing things that feel
a little bit out of character for

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you, typically, but it feels right.

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It feels like the right move for you, and
it feels like You're sort of in a place

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where you're advocating for yourself and
for others, maybe for the first time,

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maybe feeling like I've kept my mouth
shut, I've been a people pleaser, I have

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tried to play by the rules, and this is
my moment to say that for my own health

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and wellness, for my own The virus wealth
and prosperity, I'm going to need to step

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into a role that is a little bit more
risky and might even, at times, present

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me in a light that is not as flattering,
not as people pleasing, if you will.

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Alright, so I hope that that
helps and I am excited to invite

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Shannon to our show today.

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In this show, Practically Magic,
we take things that are real life,

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things that Are based and rooted
in reality and science in, um, in

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education, in the pursuit of happiness.

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And we understand it as in the
realm of practically magic that

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these things can feel at times.

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To be magical and we're learning
about that as if we are students

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of the world and I'm excited to
have Shannon on because Shannon and

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I have had a lot of conversations
about what it means to be healing

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and aware of ourselves in practicing
mindfulness in practicing, um, healing.

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And what that means for our fitness
goals, what that means for wellness,

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what that means for, um, for
our own bodies and for our goals

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with our bodies, with our health.

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So I'm excited to have Shannon on.

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We'll see what our, where
our conversation takes us.

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Hello and welcome Shannon.

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Thank you for coming on the show.

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Hi, Courtney.

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So excited to be here.

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Thank you for inviting me.

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All right.

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So let's get into it.

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We did, um, an episode a couple of
weeks ago, uh, practically magic.

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So for those of you listening,
go back a couple of episodes.

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And, um, we did one on, uh,
wealth and finance with a finance

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coach, Kathy Posse, we both know.

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And I.

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I, it's going to be a very similar
conversation in that whether we're

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talking about wellness or fitness.

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We, um, we're just talking about not the
how to do it, or it's kind of the why or

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the, um, the personal belief systems that
keep us blocked or moving towards the

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goals that we want to make for ourselves.

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And Shannon has been a former
competitive gymnast, as well as.

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CEO of Golladay Fit LLC and a
fitness coach and wellness coach.

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So tell me a little bit about your
experience with clients or with working

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with people and what you notice about
what keeps them either blocked or

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can move them through those blocks
into their meeting their goals.

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Sure.

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Thanks, Courtney.

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I like to use the example of
two women that I worked with.

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I won't use their names, but I'll use
just, you know, fake names for now.

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So there was Sue and there was Jill.

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And Sue and Jill both had a similar
goal of losing over 100 pounds.

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And so Sue and Jill both came to me.

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They, um, I coached them the same way.

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I gave them the same tools and Sue
lost 134 pounds and Jill ended up

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back in the hospital, um, worse
off than she was when she started.

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And so I was shocked because,
you know, two people with similar

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goals, two women and similar tools
and the same coach, but different,

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very drastically different results.

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And so what was the
difference between those two?

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Well, um, mindset was huge.

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Um, so believing that it was
possible and getting rid of those

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beliefs in their, in their, you
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Um, also having a really strong
why and a desire to change.

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Um, I think that was huge.

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Um, one wanted to have more children
and she wanted to do anything it

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took to get in shape, get healthy
again, to have more children.

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Um, the other one, you know, just
said she wanted to get healthy.

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It was more of a vague goal.

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It wasn't as specific.

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It wasn't as motivating.

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And, you know, so one just
took off and saw results.

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I mean, it took about 18 months
to get, to lose over 134 pounds.

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I'm not into fast.

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Fast weight loss.

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Um, but it was just, it blew my
mind that these two had very similar

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goals, same tools, same coach, and
just ended in very different places.

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Yeah, and it's interesting
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conversations about this before.

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Um, where, when I was going to
the Institute of Healing Arts and

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we're learning about energy work
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belief systems that typically
started when you were very young.

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I mean there's subconscious beliefs
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energy that are being held in the body.

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Um, but I heard stories of
people that were like, I am

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doing all the right things.

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Um, you know, women who had learned these
habits of like eating right and, um,

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and getting on a pretty good exercise
routine and doing what it took and,

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and even cutting certain things out
of their diet that were more sugar and

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processed foods and things like that.

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Um, but they weren't cutting the weight.

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come off like they expected or maybe
it did at first, but they would get

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stuck and they would, it's just,
it was hard for them to understand.

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But once they started doing like emotional
healing work, it was whatever belief

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systems the body was holding onto that
was maybe holding that weight for a

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reason that the body thought it needed
to sometimes for protection or for You

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know, whatever, whatever trauma may
have been linked to that belief system.

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And it wasn't until they were able to
identify that and start to like work on

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the healing work there that they were able
to see that, like that last puzzle piece

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fall into place for their goals, right.

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Their fitness goals.

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So, yeah, I think that that belief
systems like are really important.

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And, um, we've had clients where
Um, you and I both like know people

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that some of the the block that they
have about being able to go towards.

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Okay, I know what I need to do.

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I'm being taught the right tools.

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I'm being taught the right habits,
but just can't seem to get myself to

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wake up in the morning and do those
things because there's an Somewhere

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deep down an inherent belief of
like I don't deserve to get healthy.

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I don't deserve.

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Um, and for those listening who, um,
have been listening to my previous

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episode on alchemy, I, um, I had a
guest and we talked a lot about shame.

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And she mentioned shame as not an emotion,
which is the first time I'd heard that

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kind of explained that way, but that
when things are seen through a lens

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of shame, there's just this inherent
belief of like, I'm not worthy of this.

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I'm not worthy of change.

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I'm not worthy of, um, This care that
I'm giving my body, you probably have

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seen that in your experience in coaching.

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Oh, oh, absolutely.

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And even talking to clients, you know,
I'll, I'll have a session with them and

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I'll, you know, ask about their week.

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And I can tell when someone's going to
be successful, if they're starting off

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with, I did this wrong, I did this wrong,
I did this wrong, I did this wrong.

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And then I'm like, okay, we're not
going to see success if we're, if we're

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constantly shaming ourselves and telling
us, you know, we're not good enough.

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We, um, we did this wrong.

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We did this wrong.

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We can't build upon that.

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And so I like to ask my clients, you
know, what did you do well this week?

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What was your success this week?

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And sometimes people can't
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And so, but that just pills
back the layers because I

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want to know where they're at.

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Like if they are shaming themselves
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if we're looking in the mirror,
we wake up, um, I can't remember

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the statistic, but it was, it was.

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Shocking how many negative thoughts go
through our minds from like the first

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hour we wake up like we wake up We
look in the mirror brushing our teeth.

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Oh, you look so terrible.

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Oh, you're so fat.

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Oh, you're so ugly You
put it on your jeans.

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Oh my gosh You look like all
these negative thoughts are going

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through our mind like first thing
in the morning and how can we?

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um Nourish and grow and see
success when we are constantly

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putting in the negativity.

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It's the same thing, you know, like with
a plant, they say, you know, like if

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you're speaking to a plant negatively
and expecting it to bloom and grow,

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how, how, how can we expect ourselves to
grow and flourish if we are constantly

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beating ourselves down because, okay,
you start your day off like that.

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And then maybe you're
trying to eat healthy.

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Maybe you're halfway doing a workout.

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But deep down, you're just saying
you're not good enough, you're not

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worth it, and it's not gonna work.

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You're not going to see results.

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And so I just, I just can tell a big
difference when someone, even working

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with you, Courtney, I know we've worked
together on your health and fitness

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goals, and I mean, you actually won
one of our contests or what were one

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of the winners in one of our contests.

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And I just talking to you, I
could tell you have done the

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work and I could tell like.

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You were just seeing, you know, amazing
results because you were speaking to

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yourself kindly and, you know, you
had done that foundation work, and

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so then the rest, you just took off.

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Yeah, and I can tell you, that
hasn't always been the case for me.

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Um, you know, a lot of it is like,
that's why the work that you do, the

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work that I do, even the work that Kathy
does in the financial coaching aspect,

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it's all so interconnected and work so
well together because we're all helping

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achieve these little bits and pieces
about ourselves that help create like.

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Awareness of where we came from.

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And I don't know if you maybe find this,
but I would be willing to bet that a lot

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of the clients that do speak negatively
about themselves or wake up in the

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morning and, or, or start their session
with you going, well, I, I didn't eat.

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Well, I did this thing, you know,
and they start shaming themselves.

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I would be willing to bet or
ask them, how did your parents.

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motivate you?

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How did your parents speak
to you when you were young?

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Did they, did they think that
shaming you or saying all the

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things you did wrong, criticizing
you was the way to motivate you?

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Was the way to say, this is
how you need to wake up and

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make, you know, do your day.

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You didn't make your bed.

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You didn't do this.

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You didn't do that.

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And, you know, parents are parents.

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They're doing their best.

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I'm not here to shame parents.

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Like I've been there, totally done
it to my son, sons, all of them.

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I've done it to all.

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I've, I've done all the
wrong things as well.

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We've all done it.

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So I'm not here to shame that, but
I'm wondering is, you know, a lot of

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times those kind of ways we speak to
ourselves, it comes from a subconscious

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belief that we've held for a very long
time, usually in early childhood, where

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we believe this lie That that shaming
will make us change our behavior that

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will be like, I, I didn't eat well.

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I didn't exercise.

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I didn't get up and do
the things I wanted to do.

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And now I'm thinking, bad me bad me.

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I didn't do the right things,
because you think that that's

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going to make a difference.

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I've been guilty of it.

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Just as much or more than anyone.

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I mean, really, we all have.

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Yeah, we all have and but I think it's
it's becoming aware of what's going

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on because I think a lot of people
aren't even aware of the thoughts.

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They are just doing they're so action
driven, and they're trying trying trying

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and going through the cycle of on off on
off on off you know I hear this so much.

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I fell off the wagon, I fell off the
wagon, I need to get back on the wagon.

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And it's like, if we're
on off on off on off.

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Let's, let's look at the beliefs behind
it, because if we believe that we have

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to be on a diet, we have to be on some,
you know, then it's not a lifestyle,

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it's not a healthy lifestyle, and it's
the subconscious belief system behind

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that we will constantly be on a roller
coaster if we don't fix those beliefs.

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Yeah, and I, I, I'm guilty of
doing, um, Candida cleanse, uh,

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which has been great for my body.

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The times that I've done it, I really
needed to do it, but it's pretty strict.

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It's like you go off of almost
everything and you completely, you

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know, you reintroduce things slowly
into your diet and it's a great reset.

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I've done it before.

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I don't recommend it unless you, uh, have
talked to a doctor or anything like that.

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So I'm just going to put that out there.

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Yeah.

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But I have needed that from time to time.

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And so I thought going into that fitness
challenge that I did in September, which

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yeah, I, I went into it thinking, okay,
I'll just do what has worked for me in

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the past, which is like going on a cleanse
and doing kind of something like that.

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But I realized what worked better.

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In that particular instance was to follow
more of what you were telling me to do,

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the nutrition plans and just saying, Hey,
you don't have to cut everything out.

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You just need to be mindful about
what you're eating or what times

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of day or, um, and I, and I did
go into it saying, I usually lose

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some weight, but I usually plateau.

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Like I don't, I'll lose a bunch at
the beginning cause I changed my

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habits and then I'll just not lose a
single pound for the rest of the time.

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And, um, And you were a great
coach because you said, okay,

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here's some things you need to do.

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Um, one of the things you told me was
do you tend to eat the same things

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every day and, and get in a rut,
you know, and I am totally that way.

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I'm like, these are the things I
know I can eat and I like to eat.

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So I'll just stick with that.

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Like it'll just be like super dinner
every night and this breakfast every

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morning and I'll just stick with that.

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And I'll just, I'll just make that my diet
for the rest of the, for the whole month.

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And no wonder I plateaued, right?

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I was like.

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Yeah, I lost some weight in the
beginning because I was cutting out

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more of the mindless snacking that I had
been doing and, and then I plateaued.

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I was like, and then I was like, you know
what, I actually do need to change it up.

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I need to try different things.

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I need to eat different things.

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I need to, um, you know, make a meal plan
and like plan out what I'm going to eat,

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put a little more effort into it, I guess
a little bit more energy and effort.

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And it totally worked.

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And then I saw more like changes
happening with my body and,

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um, and it felt really great.

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And I would say the, the difference maybe
in what I've done in the past or what

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maybe some of some other people do and
what worked for me this time, the key

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word I keep coming back to is enthusiasm.

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Yeah, because like that
mindset you're talking about.

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I wouldn't have had that mindset or it
would have been really hard for me to

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have that mindset if I didn't have like.

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When I lose this extra weight, I want
to lose and get my fitness goals going.

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Um, when my body transforms in a
way I can noticeably see it, this

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is how excited I feel about that.

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Like, and keeping that enthusiasm
lasted me the whole month.

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That's awesome.

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And there wasn't, it's not like
I was like perfect and like.

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I mean, there were days when I woke up
and I was like, snacky, snacky snack.

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And then I was like, okay, like I
totally, totally went back to some old

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habits that I was doing before that
I'm trying to change, but you have such

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a great way of helping your clients.

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You're the people that you're coaching.

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You're like, that's not the end.

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Of your journey, you know, that
was one moment of weakness or

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whatever you want to call it.

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I don't even know if you would call
it weakness, but just that was one

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moment of a poor choice for your body.

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That doesn't mean you're done.

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And you're, you're, you're
like the next moment after that

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is like a new, fresh start.

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You just go, okay, now what
is another healthy choice?

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Absolutely.

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And I love how you explained that
with the enthusiasm, enthusiasm that

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you will get to your destination.

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You will reach your goal.

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Um, because that is a mindset shift.

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If you are thinking,
I'll never reach my goal.

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This won't work for me.

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Um, you know, I think it's Henry Ford
says, you know, whatever, if we think

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we can, we can, if we think we can't, we
can't and that's absolutely so if you have

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enthusiasm towards where you're going.

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Versus, um, disappointment
and discouragement.

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I mean, I think feelings and emotions
are just as powerful as thoughts.

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So if we have these feelings
and emotions of positivity

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and excitement and enthusiasm,
absolutely you're gonna take off.

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But if you're, like, discouraged and,
you know, shame and guilt and, you

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know, we're gonna go the other way.

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So I love how you explained that
with the emotion and the feeling.

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Behind the thought process, because that's
how you get results and see success.

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Yeah, yeah, you're right.

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Like thought and emotion are all energy.

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It's all, you know, the, the
energy moves with our intention.

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So if we're intention, if our intention or
thought energy is more, um, low vibration

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where it's like, I'm just a lazy, no
good, you know, uh, I'm never going to

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be athletic and never going to be fit.

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I'm never going to lose this extra weight
that I want to lose, or I'm never going

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to look a certain way that I want to look.

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Um, and you know, there are different
aspects of that where it's like our body

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type needs to be taken into consideration.

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Our, our hormone levels are all of these
other things that work and operate.

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So having like, you know, this, this idea
in my head that I was going to become.

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I don't know.

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I'm trying to think of a really,
really super thin actress or somebody

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that like would be emulated by that.

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I, you know, if I think that's my
goal or that's what I'm looking

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to do, um, then yeah, I'm probably
going to be pretty discouraged.

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My body type just isn't that,
and that's okay, but it's also

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kind of a balance of like, I love
myself and I love where I'm at.

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And I love every step of this
and every step of this journey.

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While also being like, this is,
this is where I would like to be

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and this is how I'd like to feel.

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I can't even say that my physical
body changed all that much.

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I mean, I took before and after pictures
like we do in the challenge, but I, you

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know, I looked at them and I was like,
okay, yeah, I can kind of see where maybe,

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you know, there was some, some changes.

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But honestly, it was so much
more about how I felt than it was

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seeing noticeable changes, truly.

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Oh, absolutely.

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And, and that's it, you know,
thinking of what your goal is.

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I mean, I've, I've been on my, you know,
wellness journey for almost 15 years.

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It'll be 15 years in December.

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And, you know, there's been
ups and downs along the way.

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Um, but, but appreciating
our body and loving our body.

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Through the journey is really important.

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I mean, you and I have both have have
children and you had twins, you know

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so, you know being being grateful for
our bodies ability to have children to

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To carry ourselves to be able to run to
walk to exit to do all the things because

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there's so many people that aren't able To
do the things that we've been able to do

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and so I think if we come from a place of
gratitude For where we are at now as well.

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That's important.

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We want to see progress.

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We want to change but having that
gratitude Um another story of a client

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I went to her house and she had a
picture of herself on her fridge

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Of her at her worst And so she was
looking at that every day and she was

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thinking, I don't want to be like that.

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And then I turned over the picture.

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She had a picture of her best
on the front and then a picture

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of her worst on the back.

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And I said, how can this be motivated?

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Like how can this be motivating to you?

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I'm like, Because I mean, that was cool.

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She had a picture on the
other side of her best.

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I'm like, we need to flip this
over and focus on you at your best.

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And, and like you say, it's not
necessarily a specific weight, because

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as we age, you know, I'm in my 40s.

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And as we go into our different ages,
of course, our body goes through

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different changes and things like that.

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But How do we want to feel?

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Like, do we want to have energy?

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Do we want to feel happy?

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Do you want to be able to run and
hike and, you know, do the things?

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Um, you know, that's, that's
where I'm measuring success.

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Like, yeah, sure.

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The weight loss or losing inches
or fitting into our pants.

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Those are like after awesome effects.

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Um, but if we're focusing on.

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I feel awesome.

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I feel amazing.

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You know, I think that's even
more Valuable because and

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just one other side note.

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I was just going to share I helped another
client Her goal was to lose over 20 pounds

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and get flat abs after having a baby
So so we did that she lost the weight.

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She lost over 20 pounds.

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She got flat abs And she
was miserable afterwards.

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And I was like, we reached the goal!

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Oh, and we ran, we ran a half marathon.

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That was another, like, someday goal.

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Because I'm all about, let's, let's do it.

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Yeah, someday, check, check, check, check.

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She was miserable, and I was like,
We did it, you know, and, but,

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but she still found, she still
found things wrong with herself.

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She still was like, but this, and this,
and this, and this, and I'm like, oh

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my gosh, that goes back to the beliefs.

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Like, we have to love our bodies wherever
we're at, and because we'll never be happy

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when, if, if we're not happy now, so.

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Yes, and that's where that mindset
comes in, that's so important, of

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like, Is your mindset that you need
to shame yourself or that you need to

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find flaws or that you need to find,
you know, where did that life start?

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That's something that my integrated
processing technique, the emotional

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processing I do with people, whether
it's their financial goals, their

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personal relationship goals, their
fitness goals, it doesn't matter.

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And that's why it's hard
for me to market it.

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We've talked about that before
where I'm like, it's hard

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for me to focus on one thing.

444
00:28:15,449 --> 00:28:18,889
Cause I'm like, but the
emotional processing work is

445
00:28:18,889 --> 00:28:21,539
for whatever blocks people have.

446
00:28:21,549 --> 00:28:22,449
It's about finding.

447
00:28:22,809 --> 00:28:28,419
Where's the lie that started way back
when, you know, I would ask that client

448
00:28:28,429 --> 00:28:32,489
who was like, she didn't, she achieved
the goals, but she still wasn't happy with

449
00:28:32,489 --> 00:28:34,489
herself or happy with what she'd achieved.

450
00:28:34,939 --> 00:28:36,499
But it's like, where's the lie?

451
00:28:36,509 --> 00:28:41,049
Where did the lie start that you had
to be so down on yourself or that you

452
00:28:41,049 --> 00:28:44,679
had, or that it would require you to
be, or look a certain way for you to be

453
00:28:44,679 --> 00:28:47,429
happy that you have to wait until that.

454
00:28:47,714 --> 00:28:48,024
Right.

455
00:28:48,334 --> 00:28:50,944
That destination was finally reached.

456
00:28:50,974 --> 00:28:54,114
And then you could be grateful
or happy with yourself.

457
00:28:54,884 --> 00:28:56,544
And, and that's where I come in.

458
00:28:56,554 --> 00:28:59,404
That's where I work with clients
is where does that come in?

459
00:28:59,444 --> 00:29:05,734
And then what I was going to say
too, is the community aspect.

460
00:29:05,734 --> 00:29:08,174
We wanted to talk about
like, where does that fit in?

461
00:29:08,174 --> 00:29:13,614
Because you have coaching that you do
with, with a group in helping people.

462
00:29:14,434 --> 00:29:17,694
And it's like, who are you
surrounding yourself with that?

463
00:29:18,289 --> 00:29:27,719
Um, because women do tend to connect
or bond by being down on themselves.

464
00:29:27,739 --> 00:29:30,499
Do you find that sometimes
it's kind of a cultural thing?

465
00:29:30,499 --> 00:29:33,879
Oh, absolutely.

466
00:29:34,759 --> 00:29:38,949
Complaining and, you know,
talking about what's going wrong

467
00:29:39,209 --> 00:29:41,139
is a really easy connector.

468
00:29:41,589 --> 00:29:46,039
Um, I mean, even so my, you know, I
have a degree in public relations and,

469
00:29:46,269 --> 00:29:48,219
and that's what sells in the media.

470
00:29:48,664 --> 00:29:53,544
Um, shocking the worst, like, you know,
if you're looking at a headline, it's not

471
00:29:53,544 --> 00:29:55,884
going to say something super positive.

472
00:29:55,904 --> 00:29:59,094
Like you're going to get
something negative, um, because it

473
00:29:59,094 --> 00:30:04,194
connects people, people, people,
um, bond with the negativity.

474
00:30:04,414 --> 00:30:08,394
And so if you, you know, I've
gone around women who are

475
00:30:08,444 --> 00:30:10,624
like, Oh yeah, I'm overweight.

476
00:30:10,624 --> 00:30:11,454
I'm tired.

477
00:30:11,454 --> 00:30:12,804
I'm out of energy.

478
00:30:12,804 --> 00:30:13,474
Oh, me too.

479
00:30:13,474 --> 00:30:13,884
Me too.

480
00:30:13,884 --> 00:30:14,214
Oh yeah.

481
00:30:14,214 --> 00:30:14,884
That's normal.

482
00:30:14,884 --> 00:30:15,754
Oh, that's how it is.

483
00:30:16,354 --> 00:30:18,294
And then they just kind
of stay stuck there.

484
00:30:18,334 --> 00:30:25,744
And I'm like, Okay, like that's not
let's not make that normal and you

485
00:30:25,744 --> 00:30:29,634
know, but it is a conscious I think
it's a very conscious effort to shift

486
00:30:29,654 --> 00:30:33,994
our thoughts to the positive, because
like you say, it's just easy to bond

487
00:30:33,994 --> 00:30:36,104
and connect over here on the negative.

488
00:30:36,114 --> 00:30:40,984
So, um, so if you who you're surrounding
around yourself really makes a difference.

489
00:30:41,244 --> 00:30:44,914
Like if you are surrounding yourself
with people who are like, Yeah, it's

490
00:30:44,914 --> 00:30:46,744
okay to be 20 pounds overweight.

491
00:30:46,744 --> 00:30:46,984
Yeah.

492
00:30:46,984 --> 00:30:49,734
It's okay to just, you know,
just get bigger pants sizes.

493
00:30:49,734 --> 00:30:49,924
Yeah.

494
00:30:49,924 --> 00:30:53,564
It's okay to just splurge
and eat whatever you want.

495
00:30:53,584 --> 00:30:57,824
And, and I'm not, you know, like I just
say, this is not about shaming, but for

496
00:30:57,834 --> 00:30:59,854
me, it's about health and longevity.

497
00:31:00,174 --> 00:31:04,804
And I want to feel and look my best,
like all the way to a hundred, you know?

498
00:31:05,254 --> 00:31:08,904
And so I want to be with
those people that are like.

499
00:31:09,124 --> 00:31:09,914
Yeah, I want to hike.

500
00:31:09,944 --> 00:31:11,044
Yeah, I want to run a race.

501
00:31:11,084 --> 00:31:11,864
Yeah, I want it.

502
00:31:12,184 --> 00:31:13,244
Let's go running today.

503
00:31:13,244 --> 00:31:14,814
Sure, I can go right now.

504
00:31:14,834 --> 00:31:16,934
Let's, you know, I know you
and I went running one time and

505
00:31:16,934 --> 00:31:18,454
it's like, yeah, let's go today.

506
00:31:18,454 --> 00:31:18,784
Sure.

507
00:31:18,804 --> 00:31:19,724
Let's do it.

508
00:31:19,724 --> 00:31:23,714
You know, like, um, I know
it was super sad that the

509
00:31:23,714 --> 00:31:25,134
weather started changing right.

510
00:31:25,134 --> 00:31:28,664
As I got back into running for
the first time in 15 years.

511
00:31:28,664 --> 00:31:30,864
And I was like, I'm actually
enjoying running again.

512
00:31:31,234 --> 00:31:34,524
And then it was like, uh, maybe
this was the wrong season to start.

513
00:31:36,564 --> 00:31:38,944
That was my fault, but
I think it was great.

514
00:31:38,974 --> 00:31:39,134
And.

515
00:31:39,454 --> 00:31:42,744
That time that we went running
around the lake here, we live in,

516
00:31:42,784 --> 00:31:48,494
um, the daybreak area and the lake
is a good, like three miles or so.

517
00:31:48,534 --> 00:31:53,264
Um, if you do the whole lake, I don't
think I'd ever run the entire lake or

518
00:31:53,264 --> 00:31:55,644
walked the entire lake all the way around.

519
00:31:56,334 --> 00:31:58,384
And it really pushed me.

520
00:31:58,404 --> 00:32:02,774
I was like, my body is capable
of more than I realized.

521
00:32:03,619 --> 00:32:07,629
And it wasn't that it was easy,
but it wasn't impossible either.

522
00:32:07,909 --> 00:32:13,389
So community, like doing things like
that together, like what can, what

523
00:32:13,399 --> 00:32:17,849
magic can happen when you're motivated
to be like, we're going to run together

524
00:32:17,849 --> 00:32:24,969
this whole, you know, much longer than
I normally do or pushing ourselves.

525
00:32:24,969 --> 00:32:25,639
Yeah.

526
00:32:26,019 --> 00:32:30,229
And what I found in our conversations
and talking with you is that Um,

527
00:32:30,279 --> 00:32:34,279
I don't know if anyone's ever seen
you'll know the scene from Mean Girls,

528
00:32:34,349 --> 00:32:39,179
uh, where she's not quite familiar
with the dynamic of American girls

529
00:32:39,179 --> 00:32:40,699
and how they talk to each other.

530
00:32:41,249 --> 00:32:45,099
And she's kind of an outsider but she
notices she's noticing that they're all

531
00:32:45,099 --> 00:32:48,939
talking about their bodies and they're
like, Oh my gosh my thighs are too

532
00:32:48,939 --> 00:32:51,099
big and oh my, you know, I wish I had.

533
00:32:51,284 --> 00:32:53,734
Thicker lips and they're
picking out all these things.

534
00:32:54,194 --> 00:32:55,504
And she's the narrator.

535
00:32:55,504 --> 00:32:59,004
She's like, I'm realizing that
this is how girls connect.

536
00:32:59,634 --> 00:33:02,784
They bond with each other
and they all pick each other.

537
00:33:02,814 --> 00:33:04,594
You know, they're themselves apart.

538
00:33:05,074 --> 00:33:07,524
And they look at her,
like, it's your turn.

539
00:33:08,604 --> 00:33:11,884
And it's almost like, if you don't
do it, you're full of yourself.

540
00:33:11,894 --> 00:33:15,812
You're, you're, um, you're too cocky.

541
00:33:15,812 --> 00:33:16,494
Right.

542
00:33:17,174 --> 00:33:19,244
And I wondered if.

543
00:33:19,694 --> 00:33:23,514
If we step out of those patterns and
we don't connect in those ways, would

544
00:33:23,514 --> 00:33:25,494
we have things to connect about?

545
00:33:25,494 --> 00:33:30,564
Would we be able to have, uh,
conversations with friends?

546
00:33:31,264 --> 00:33:35,394
And you and I, I found it really
easy to talk about things we'd

547
00:33:35,394 --> 00:33:39,194
like to do or things that are like,
I'd love to get back into running.

548
00:33:39,214 --> 00:33:40,114
I love running.

549
00:33:40,484 --> 00:33:44,284
And We did have things to talk
about and things to connect over,

550
00:33:44,294 --> 00:33:46,634
which was like, what are our goals?

551
00:33:46,634 --> 00:33:47,854
What do we want to do?

552
00:33:47,874 --> 00:33:49,244
I want to, I want to do a hike.

553
00:33:49,284 --> 00:33:52,574
I want to do, you know, let's
make plans to do, to do this hike

554
00:33:52,574 --> 00:33:53,924
before the weather gets too cold.

555
00:33:54,554 --> 00:33:55,904
And we did that.

556
00:33:56,864 --> 00:34:00,034
So it just proves that there
is opportunities to have those.

557
00:34:00,429 --> 00:34:06,069
Same connections, the same, you
know, being able to bond and like

558
00:34:06,069 --> 00:34:09,419
create friendship over things that
are not just picking ourselves apart.

559
00:34:10,549 --> 00:34:14,909
And uh, and I do like to gather
women together and have moments

560
00:34:14,909 --> 00:34:18,419
where we can talk about things that
are real and vulnerable and hard.

561
00:34:18,839 --> 00:34:23,739
I mean, we, we don't want to act like
our lives are so great and perfect that

562
00:34:23,739 --> 00:34:28,799
we can Disconnect for ourselves from
other people, but being able to say like.

563
00:34:29,624 --> 00:34:35,944
Yeah, I've really been struggling lately,
um, to eat well and then have a friend

564
00:34:35,944 --> 00:34:37,834
or somebody say, Oh, that's really hard.

565
00:34:37,834 --> 00:34:38,624
I understand.

566
00:34:38,624 --> 00:34:39,914
I've totally been there.

567
00:34:40,334 --> 00:34:41,564
Um, what can I do?

568
00:34:41,574 --> 00:34:42,524
What can I do to help?

569
00:34:42,574 --> 00:34:45,744
Or, you know, what, what do you need?

570
00:34:46,059 --> 00:34:49,849
And that can be a kind of different
conversation than just the, I'm going to

571
00:34:49,849 --> 00:34:51,979
pick myself apart, I'm going to complain.

572
00:34:52,509 --> 00:34:57,209
Um, you know, it's a different kind
of dynamic, if that makes sense.

573
00:34:57,239 --> 00:34:58,559
Oh, absolutely.

574
00:34:58,559 --> 00:34:58,749
Yeah.

575
00:34:58,749 --> 00:35:02,764
I mean, there's, there's a difference,
um, between, um, You know, like,

576
00:35:02,784 --> 00:35:06,364
all coming together, complaining,
and staying stuck there, and

577
00:35:06,364 --> 00:35:08,364
going home, and feeling miserable.

578
00:35:08,874 --> 00:35:14,434
Versus, you know, versus leaning on each
other, because I think, you know, we're

579
00:35:14,434 --> 00:35:16,864
here to support and encourage each other.

580
00:35:17,144 --> 00:35:20,714
And so, it's not about not being
real, because I've, I've talked

581
00:35:20,724 --> 00:35:21,974
about this before, you know.

582
00:35:22,294 --> 00:35:26,334
Um, with other people, like, you know,
it's not about being fake positive, it's

583
00:35:26,334 --> 00:35:30,334
not about being like, oh, my life is
perfect, it's being about, here's where

584
00:35:30,334 --> 00:35:34,764
I'm at, here's where I am, and this is
hard, and here's where I want to go.

585
00:35:35,284 --> 00:35:38,214
Um, and so let's acknowledge the hard.

586
00:35:38,214 --> 00:35:41,604
Let's let's comfort each other,
support each other, but then let's

587
00:35:41,604 --> 00:35:47,034
help us rise above and get to a better
place and not and not stay stuck

588
00:35:47,034 --> 00:35:48,904
there because it's okay to be here.

589
00:35:49,224 --> 00:35:53,964
But I just think that there's power
in rising above and overcoming the

590
00:35:53,964 --> 00:35:59,194
obstacles, because that's where the magic
happens is where we can rise above even.

591
00:35:59,449 --> 00:36:03,149
You know, I just love inspiring
stories of people who are like,

592
00:36:03,179 --> 00:36:05,989
I went through this and this and
this, this was hard, hard, hard.

593
00:36:06,509 --> 00:36:09,909
But then I got here and how
did they get from here to here?

594
00:36:09,919 --> 00:36:14,069
It's because of their mindset of,
okay, I'm here, but I want to go here.

595
00:36:14,079 --> 00:36:15,399
And how can I get there?

596
00:36:15,419 --> 00:36:18,149
And that's just, uh, it's
an amazing conversation.

597
00:36:20,129 --> 00:36:20,859
Absolutely.

598
00:36:20,869 --> 00:36:23,149
It's kind of like, we need the validation.

599
00:36:23,149 --> 00:36:26,599
We need the person to that,
that can hold space for us in

600
00:36:26,599 --> 00:36:29,769
the hard, but that's where.

601
00:36:30,299 --> 00:36:34,269
Agreeing as a community that that's
not the space we're going to stay in as

602
00:36:34,269 --> 00:36:42,949
just the it's hard, um, but the like,
encouraging and motivating and, um,

603
00:36:44,139 --> 00:36:46,169
yeah, holding space for each other.

604
00:36:47,929 --> 00:36:49,159
So yeah, absolutely.

605
00:36:50,539 --> 00:36:55,009
That's a great aspect of community,
whether it's just groups of women

606
00:36:55,009 --> 00:36:59,409
supporting each other or, um, You
know, and it doesn't have to be women.

607
00:36:59,409 --> 00:37:04,509
I say women because this is the, the,
the spaces where you're typically in or,

608
00:37:04,849 --> 00:37:08,619
um, facilitating in that wellness aspect.

609
00:37:08,669 --> 00:37:13,099
But, uh, I remember you saying once in
your marketing, being able to market

610
00:37:13,099 --> 00:37:16,919
just, you know, wellness to moms who
are trying to get back in shape after

611
00:37:16,929 --> 00:37:18,379
having a baby or things like that.

612
00:37:18,379 --> 00:37:22,459
And then there were dads reaching
out to you and being like, can I?

613
00:37:22,874 --> 00:37:23,054
Yeah.

614
00:37:23,054 --> 00:37:23,624
Do this too.

615
00:37:25,734 --> 00:37:29,454
We're not excluding anybody or
any demographic, but yeah, it is.

616
00:37:29,454 --> 00:37:34,294
It's typically that sort of community
that women, um, tend to create for

617
00:37:34,294 --> 00:37:37,694
themselves is like, you can choose what
your community is and you can choose

618
00:37:37,694 --> 00:37:39,004
how to participate in that community.

619
00:37:39,004 --> 00:37:41,314
So be intentional about that.

620
00:37:41,664 --> 00:37:41,994
Right.

621
00:37:42,204 --> 00:37:44,004
Yeah, absolutely.

622
00:37:44,004 --> 00:37:48,404
And I also think, you know, it's
important to know our goals and know

623
00:37:48,404 --> 00:37:50,284
what we're looking to accomplish.

624
00:37:50,344 --> 00:37:53,314
I know a lot of times We
don't write down goal.

625
00:37:53,344 --> 00:37:56,674
I hear people make New Year's resolutions
in January and they've forgotten them

626
00:37:56,674 --> 00:38:01,814
by February, March, you know, and so,
so knowing where you're going, and then

627
00:38:01,814 --> 00:38:06,284
knowing who has accomplished that goal
already, and then surround yourself with

628
00:38:06,294 --> 00:38:11,164
those people that you want to go there,
you know, um, It's not to say, like, if

629
00:38:11,164 --> 00:38:14,754
you're around people who are complaining,
and, you know, they're your family, or

630
00:38:14,754 --> 00:38:18,514
you love them, like, you don't have to,
like, get them out of your life, like,

631
00:38:18,634 --> 00:38:24,224
I would just not give power to those
emotions, like, um, okay, you know,

632
00:38:24,494 --> 00:38:27,674
I'm going to support and encourage this
person, maybe we're going in different

633
00:38:27,674 --> 00:38:31,944
directions, but I'm still going to love
and support them, but then I'm going to

634
00:38:31,944 --> 00:38:35,554
surround myself over here with people
who are going where I want to go.

635
00:38:36,084 --> 00:38:39,434
And so I think that's really important
to acknowledge because sometimes people

636
00:38:39,434 --> 00:38:41,124
are like, Oh, now I need to cut people.

637
00:38:41,164 --> 00:38:43,304
No, no, you don't need to
get anyone out of your life.

638
00:38:44,054 --> 00:38:47,304
You know, but just don't give don't
give power to those emotions and

639
00:38:47,304 --> 00:38:49,314
don't let those pull you down.

640
00:38:49,634 --> 00:38:51,374
Because, you know, I don't know.

641
00:38:51,374 --> 00:38:54,064
I just always say we have
one shot at this life.

642
00:38:54,074 --> 00:38:55,714
And how do we want to do it?

643
00:38:55,774 --> 00:38:58,804
You know, like, like, we
don't have to stay set.

644
00:38:58,854 --> 00:39:01,274
Like, we can accomplish whatever we want.

645
00:39:01,284 --> 00:39:02,674
The sky's the limit.

646
00:39:02,974 --> 00:39:06,114
And so we, we have to have those
beliefs and the people around

647
00:39:06,114 --> 00:39:08,714
us, and then we can skyrocket.

648
00:39:09,404 --> 00:39:09,944
Yeah.

649
00:39:10,424 --> 00:39:12,674
And it's, it's.

650
00:39:13,769 --> 00:39:17,829
It's good that you said, like, we have
this one life, so we have this body and

651
00:39:17,829 --> 00:39:24,349
I think some of it in the spiritual or
emotional aspect of wellness for me,

652
00:39:24,859 --> 00:39:30,539
realizing even just recently realizing
that I do have some body dysmorphia.

653
00:39:30,579 --> 00:39:36,579
I do have some, uh, almost as if my spirit
and body are at war with each other.

654
00:39:37,109 --> 00:39:38,069
And for me.

655
00:39:38,444 --> 00:39:41,594
Engaging with fitness or engaging
with anything because I'm not

656
00:39:41,594 --> 00:39:42,864
an athletic type of person.

657
00:39:42,884 --> 00:39:47,154
I was one of those kind of people who
I, I did cross country because you

658
00:39:47,154 --> 00:39:49,754
didn't have to try out and I didn't
actually have to be good at it.

659
00:39:50,664 --> 00:39:52,894
And that was the most athletic I ever got.

660
00:39:52,994 --> 00:39:56,554
I, they would ask me to be on
volleyball teams and I stood there

661
00:39:56,554 --> 00:40:00,964
and I would just wave my hand in the
air and I'd be like, I'm just a body

662
00:40:00,964 --> 00:40:02,284
so that we don't have to forfeit.

663
00:40:02,574 --> 00:40:03,154
That's it.

664
00:40:03,264 --> 00:40:06,084
I have no, I'm not diving for the ball.

665
00:40:06,084 --> 00:40:11,654
This is not my jam, but I do realize
that the more I engage with something

666
00:40:11,654 --> 00:40:18,464
physical when I'm, you know, stretching
or, uh, you know, doing some yoga

667
00:40:18,474 --> 00:40:24,714
or something like that, it makes
my spirit and body connect more.

668
00:40:24,764 --> 00:40:29,434
They're not as much at war with each other
as I think they've been my whole life.

669
00:40:29,634 --> 00:40:33,094
Like, and I'm just realizing
that recently, like I have

670
00:40:33,094 --> 00:40:34,594
been at war with my body.

671
00:40:35,899 --> 00:40:39,099
And what happens to a body when
you're at war with it your whole life,

672
00:40:39,229 --> 00:40:44,089
your body, your mind and your spirit
are like, this body is not right.

673
00:40:44,119 --> 00:40:47,529
It can't do what I need
it to do or whatever.

674
00:40:48,619 --> 00:40:50,439
The body is going to get sick.

675
00:40:51,039 --> 00:40:55,289
I mean, that's just the way that
energy is going to present itself.

676
00:40:55,309 --> 00:41:00,469
And so, you know, you can't be surprised
when your body starts to reject you.

677
00:41:02,059 --> 00:41:04,849
If you, you've been rejecting
your body your whole life.

678
00:41:04,849 --> 00:41:08,349
So I got to a place where I was
like, listen, I'm getting older.

679
00:41:09,029 --> 00:41:12,719
My body is going to need to be taken
care of more so than ever before.

680
00:41:12,749 --> 00:41:14,599
I don't have youth on my side.

681
00:41:15,249 --> 00:41:21,079
So I'm going to want to engage with
my body in ways that not only nurture

682
00:41:21,079 --> 00:41:26,709
it and take care of it and feed
it, but also love it in a way that

683
00:41:26,709 --> 00:41:28,429
I've probably not been doing well.

684
00:41:28,579 --> 00:41:30,959
Absolutely.

685
00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:33,339
Absolutely.

686
00:41:33,599 --> 00:41:38,449
And I would just also add, I think
that society, um, plays a big part

687
00:41:38,489 --> 00:41:44,789
into that conflict because like
there's these societal norms of how we

688
00:41:44,789 --> 00:41:46,699
should look like and how we should be.

689
00:41:46,699 --> 00:41:49,209
And, you know, there's so much pressure.

690
00:41:49,474 --> 00:41:55,394
And so I think that plays a big part
into this battle because if we are

691
00:41:55,394 --> 00:42:00,544
rejecting our body because of, you
know, what we've heard or what so and

692
00:42:00,544 --> 00:42:05,704
so said or this or that or, you know,
I think that that's hard to have that

693
00:42:05,724 --> 00:42:08,044
peace with our body and our spirit.

694
00:42:08,234 --> 00:42:13,544
And so, you know, if anything,
if we reject, we reject all that.

695
00:42:13,899 --> 00:42:16,419
And come to peace with our body.

696
00:42:16,429 --> 00:42:19,419
And, and like you say, with
fitness, I, I love fitness.

697
00:42:19,489 --> 00:42:21,299
I'm super passionate about fitness.

698
00:42:21,329 --> 00:42:25,689
And I feel like fitness is like,
it pops you into the present.

699
00:42:26,029 --> 00:42:30,159
Like, you know, I worked with a therapist
once, she's like, just do 10 jumping.

700
00:42:30,169 --> 00:42:32,549
Like if you're feeling like
your, your mind is all over the

701
00:42:32,549 --> 00:42:36,869
place, just do jumping jacks and
just even that act of motion.

702
00:42:37,419 --> 00:42:40,759
Get your body and connect and
spirit connected together.

703
00:42:41,039 --> 00:42:46,329
And so when you are doing fitness, your
body and fit and spirit are more connected

704
00:42:46,339 --> 00:42:51,579
because you are in the present physically
and mentally, because you, you're not just

705
00:42:51,579 --> 00:42:53,899
sitting there and getting sidetracked.

706
00:42:54,139 --> 00:42:54,999
You're moving.

707
00:42:55,009 --> 00:42:56,219
You have to figure it.

708
00:42:56,219 --> 00:42:58,699
You like, you'll fall all over
the place, you know, if you're not

709
00:42:58,769 --> 00:43:03,109
consciously there and that was really
powerful to me when, um, when she

710
00:43:03,109 --> 00:43:07,269
said, cause it was during COVID and,
um, I was doing these challenges to

711
00:43:07,269 --> 00:43:09,109
like get people out of their house.

712
00:43:09,119 --> 00:43:12,349
So I'm like, even just stand on your
porch and do 10 jumping jacks and then

713
00:43:12,349 --> 00:43:14,159
come back and people were feeling better.

714
00:43:14,419 --> 00:43:16,299
Just do, I was just
telling him to do that.

715
00:43:16,429 --> 00:43:18,119
And then when she said
that to me, I'm like.

716
00:43:18,734 --> 00:43:24,794
That that's why that's why it snaps
your body and your spirit together, and

717
00:43:24,794 --> 00:43:26,954
then you're able to connect more so.

718
00:43:27,584 --> 00:43:34,134
Oh my gosh, and I just realized that
that's, that's a perfect correlation with

719
00:43:34,174 --> 00:43:39,749
the Energy healing work or with spiritual
work because we do tend to, you know,

720
00:43:39,749 --> 00:43:44,119
psychologists call it disassociating,
but it's like you almost disassociate

721
00:43:44,139 --> 00:43:49,469
or leave your body and a lot of people
who have handled trauma or have post

722
00:43:49,469 --> 00:43:53,539
traumatic stress or, um, and, and by
the way, it doesn't even have to be big

723
00:43:53,549 --> 00:43:58,009
trauma, like abuse in your childhood
or earlier in your life, but anything

724
00:43:58,009 --> 00:44:01,139
that, that causes us to disassociate.

725
00:44:01,389 --> 00:44:02,879
As a coping mechanism, right?

726
00:44:02,889 --> 00:44:05,899
Something that makes us go, I'm just
going to leave my body for a little

727
00:44:05,899 --> 00:44:11,109
bit because it's easier to not have to
deal with the pain of having a body or

728
00:44:11,169 --> 00:44:14,139
experiencing what's in the present moment.

729
00:44:15,089 --> 00:44:15,989
We all do it.

730
00:44:16,019 --> 00:44:19,079
We all have a tendency to be like,
well, I'm just going to step out.

731
00:44:19,119 --> 00:44:19,489
Right.

732
00:44:20,259 --> 00:44:22,389
And we tend to do that
through our crown chakra.

733
00:44:22,389 --> 00:44:24,229
So we would like step
out of our body, right?

734
00:44:24,289 --> 00:44:25,839
Our spirit or our mind.

735
00:44:26,324 --> 00:44:32,064
Mentally steps out, but exercise then
grounds us back to our root chakra,

736
00:44:32,074 --> 00:44:35,874
which is like, like you're saying, being
present in the body, being aware of our

737
00:44:35,874 --> 00:44:40,604
physical self and how we're connected
to the earth in this moment in time.

738
00:44:41,164 --> 00:44:45,624
So for people who like to do
grounding exercises, go out into the.

739
00:44:45,864 --> 00:44:49,244
you know, they step on their bare
feet on the earth and just go, okay,

740
00:44:49,244 --> 00:44:51,044
I'm going to breathe into my body.

741
00:44:51,074 --> 00:44:52,454
I'm going to root myself.

742
00:44:53,384 --> 00:44:57,584
And having balanced chakras means that
you're both grounded and present and

743
00:44:57,604 --> 00:45:04,029
aware, even if it means experiencing
pain or emotions that you maybe Would

744
00:45:04,039 --> 00:45:08,659
normally avoid, but being able to be
present in the moment and then also

745
00:45:08,659 --> 00:45:13,789
being able to be connected spiritually
to your higher power or to your soul or

746
00:45:13,789 --> 00:45:19,489
to the spirit world, like having both
in balance with each other means being

747
00:45:19,489 --> 00:45:22,019
a fully, you know, balanced person.

748
00:45:22,029 --> 00:45:22,749
Okay, so.

749
00:45:24,009 --> 00:45:28,529
I think it, I find it fascinating
that you're, you're mentioning that

750
00:45:28,579 --> 00:45:32,139
we're talking about grounding or
being present and we're both wearing

751
00:45:32,149 --> 00:45:35,589
red today, which I just want to
point out was totally unplanned.

752
00:45:36,799 --> 00:45:41,679
But that is the chakra color is the
red so we're both like on the same

753
00:45:41,679 --> 00:45:45,319
page here where we're talking about
like grounding being present and

754
00:45:45,329 --> 00:45:48,559
being able to be fully in our body.

755
00:45:48,689 --> 00:45:49,059
Right.

756
00:45:50,129 --> 00:45:51,039
Absolutely.

757
00:45:51,119 --> 00:45:51,949
Absolutely.

758
00:45:52,299 --> 00:45:52,689
Yeah.

759
00:45:52,719 --> 00:45:54,959
I mean, there's just so much to it.

760
00:45:54,979 --> 00:46:02,129
And, um, it's pretty amazing, like, as you
know, as we learn more about these things.

761
00:46:02,169 --> 00:46:06,359
And even, even this morning, I mean, this
is a side note, but I was listening to

762
00:46:06,359 --> 00:46:10,629
this podcast about like how the moon and
I know you've done some moon work, you

763
00:46:10,629 --> 00:46:13,159
know, how the moon affects our energy.

764
00:46:13,199 --> 00:46:17,329
And, and, you know, even that
it's just like, wow, like, there's

765
00:46:17,329 --> 00:46:19,219
just there's so much more to it.

766
00:46:19,219 --> 00:46:19,294
Yeah.

767
00:46:20,534 --> 00:46:21,934
Yes, for sure.

768
00:46:21,984 --> 00:46:26,994
And my friend Cambria, who does the
astrology, she can tell you all the

769
00:46:26,994 --> 00:46:31,144
things I don't know, but like the
planets, the alignment, the like,

770
00:46:31,154 --> 00:46:35,364
what we're in right now, Mer, Mercury
is entering retrograde right now.

771
00:46:35,364 --> 00:46:38,174
So things are going to be a little
bit affected by that, but we cannot

772
00:46:39,134 --> 00:46:44,684
live our lives as if we are completely
disconnected from all the things that

773
00:46:44,684 --> 00:46:47,884
infiltrator energy and that affect us.

774
00:46:48,534 --> 00:46:53,834
Um, I mean, and that brings us back
to your point about, um, society

775
00:46:53,884 --> 00:46:55,764
and the influence of the media.

776
00:46:56,074 --> 00:46:57,554
I'm a 90s girl.

777
00:46:57,574 --> 00:47:04,414
I, I definitely cannot say I was not
influenced by the Tara Reid era of

778
00:47:04,694 --> 00:47:08,684
like ultra ultra thin being the ideal.

779
00:47:08,944 --> 00:47:15,664
And I, I wish I can say I'm evolved enough
to say I don't want to be that thin.

780
00:47:16,809 --> 00:47:17,699
But I do.

781
00:47:17,729 --> 00:47:19,389
It's something I battle every day.

782
00:47:19,389 --> 00:47:22,499
I look at myself and I
go, I wish I were a twig.

783
00:47:22,529 --> 00:47:27,069
I wish there was no fat or
jiggle or anything on me.

784
00:47:28,209 --> 00:47:30,009
I'm just as susceptible to it.

785
00:47:30,059 --> 00:47:33,869
And so it's, uh, you know, for those
of you listening who want to go to

786
00:47:33,869 --> 00:47:38,939
another throwback episode, the episode
that I do on codependency, it's really

787
00:47:38,939 --> 00:47:43,494
not all that different is that we can
be We can be codependent to of the

788
00:47:43,494 --> 00:47:51,544
influence of other people and society
and, you know, magazines and images

789
00:47:51,604 --> 00:47:55,204
and what we see on TV, like telling
us, this is how it's supposed to be.

790
00:47:55,224 --> 00:47:56,564
This is how you're supposed to look.

791
00:47:56,614 --> 00:47:58,054
This is how you're supposed to feel.

792
00:47:59,304 --> 00:48:03,874
And, and being able to separate ourselves
from that and say, that's not my energy.

793
00:48:03,904 --> 00:48:05,874
That's not what I need to hold.

794
00:48:05,904 --> 00:48:08,294
That's someone else's
work that they're doing.

795
00:48:08,624 --> 00:48:13,074
I am just needing to be aware of
myself and my journey and what.

796
00:48:14,789 --> 00:48:15,209
to do.

797
00:48:15,449 --> 00:48:15,799
Right.

798
00:48:16,299 --> 00:48:17,079
Absolutely.

799
00:48:17,109 --> 00:48:21,669
And, and when we can come to a
place of, um, This is who I am and

800
00:48:21,669 --> 00:48:25,619
I love who I am and I'm continuing,
like, this is where I'm at now.

801
00:48:25,659 --> 00:48:29,119
And this is where I want to go and I'm
continuing to learn and grow and progress.

802
00:48:29,519 --> 00:48:32,259
Um, but like you say,
disconnecting yourself from

803
00:48:32,269 --> 00:48:34,419
outside influences or sources.

804
00:48:34,419 --> 00:48:36,719
This sh you should be like this initially.

805
00:48:36,889 --> 00:48:40,259
Because I've had that you know like
the voices in your head like you

806
00:48:40,259 --> 00:48:43,889
should be like at least for me like
you should be Less sensitive you should

807
00:48:43,889 --> 00:48:49,354
be Like, I'm very passionate and I'm
very, you know, I can get into it.

808
00:48:49,364 --> 00:48:52,929
And it's like, You know, like you
should, you should, should, should.

809
00:48:52,929 --> 00:48:57,789
It's like, goodbye, stop
shoulding on yourself.

810
00:48:57,849 --> 00:48:59,189
That's what I always say to people.

811
00:48:59,189 --> 00:49:02,739
I'm like, stop shoulding on yourself
and stop shoulding on others.

812
00:49:02,789 --> 00:49:07,379
Like, um, I almost feel like the
word should, should be removed

813
00:49:07,399 --> 00:49:10,419
from our vocabulary so that we're
not always going should, should,

814
00:49:10,419 --> 00:49:12,379
should this, that, or whatever.

815
00:49:12,719 --> 00:49:13,119
Yeah.

816
00:49:13,319 --> 00:49:16,779
And that can have such an impact
on so many aspects of our lives,

817
00:49:17,099 --> 00:49:19,709
fitness, health, all of it.

818
00:49:21,699 --> 00:49:22,389
Absolutely.

819
00:49:22,389 --> 00:49:22,739
Yeah.

820
00:49:22,749 --> 00:49:27,459
Well, and, um, I think when you get to
that place of You know, this is where

821
00:49:27,459 --> 00:49:32,219
i'm at and this is where I want to go
Um, then you truly see progress and you

822
00:49:32,219 --> 00:49:36,259
can find true happiness and you can be
grounded in who you are and where you

823
00:49:36,259 --> 00:49:41,799
want to be um in your life and um I think
that's the most most fulfilling because

824
00:49:41,799 --> 00:49:46,179
then you're not People pleasing or you
know trying to be a certain i've done

825
00:49:46,179 --> 00:49:49,009
that where it's like you're trying to be
this for these people They're trying to

826
00:49:49,189 --> 00:49:54,714
be this and and it's so exhausting and
it's just like like break Away, you know.

827
00:49:55,114 --> 00:49:55,394
Yep.

828
00:49:55,744 --> 00:49:56,084
Yep.

829
00:49:56,134 --> 00:50:01,394
And I think we're moving into an era,
whether it's cosmically or energetically,

830
00:50:01,404 --> 00:50:08,194
or we're shifting into an energy that,
um, Cambria Davis Mukai community, she

831
00:50:08,194 --> 00:50:13,579
would say it's It's because Pluto just
entered Aquarius, and it's going to be

832
00:50:13,579 --> 00:50:16,149
in Aquarius for a long amount of time.

833
00:50:16,599 --> 00:50:21,309
And what that means is we're breaking
down boundaries and systems, and we

834
00:50:21,309 --> 00:50:26,239
are opening things up to being more
authentic, being more in a space of what,

835
00:50:26,249 --> 00:50:28,459
what do I need and what works for me.

836
00:50:29,169 --> 00:50:29,699
So.

837
00:50:30,159 --> 00:50:35,219
It's time to shed all that and shed
all the like expectations and I'm here

838
00:50:35,219 --> 00:50:40,809
to be what everybody else needs me
to be and just be who is the best me.

839
00:50:41,119 --> 00:50:45,249
Aligned with who I want
to be that I can be

840
00:50:52,069 --> 00:50:53,119
all right with that.

841
00:50:53,249 --> 00:50:59,589
I'm going to let you, uh, tell us in
our audience where they can find you

842
00:50:59,599 --> 00:51:04,779
if they want to learn more or have,
uh, access to what you have to offer.

843
00:51:08,209 --> 00:51:09,249
Thanks, Courtney.

844
00:51:09,299 --> 00:51:13,629
Um, before I say that, I just,
I hope my internet's okay.

845
00:51:13,639 --> 00:51:14,339
It went a little.

846
00:51:14,819 --> 00:51:16,839
Yeah, we're being a little
glitchy, but that's okay.

847
00:51:17,439 --> 00:51:18,209
We'll make it work.

848
00:51:18,209 --> 00:51:22,314
But I just, uh, Okay.

849
00:51:23,104 --> 00:51:26,454
Well, um, I wanted to
say how amazing you are

850
00:51:35,394 --> 00:51:40,164
for the work that you do, Courtney,
because I think that it is so

851
00:51:40,164 --> 00:51:45,664
important to, um, to dive deep into
our past beliefs, dive deep into our

852
00:51:45,664 --> 00:51:50,784
subconscious and, and look at where
we came from and how that's shining.

853
00:51:51,339 --> 00:51:55,949
In, in the now, right now, because
a lot of times we're walking through

854
00:51:55,949 --> 00:52:00,329
life, and we're, we're just carrying
all this stuff on our backs, and we

855
00:52:00,329 --> 00:52:06,669
don't realize where it came from,
or, you know, that it's even there.

856
00:52:07,319 --> 00:52:07,599
Yeah.

857
00:52:10,914 --> 00:52:18,654
So I love the work that you do because,
um, like you say that this shows up in

858
00:52:18,654 --> 00:52:23,564
our lives in so many in our finances
in our marriages and being a parent.

859
00:52:23,754 --> 00:52:28,694
And so to dig back there and
pull it to the front and then

860
00:52:28,694 --> 00:52:30,439
to be able to release it.

861
00:52:30,729 --> 00:52:32,029
It's very powerful.

862
00:52:32,049 --> 00:52:35,549
So I, I recommend the work that
you're doing and thank you for that.

863
00:52:36,209 --> 00:52:36,659
Thank you.

864
00:52:36,809 --> 00:52:37,619
I appreciate that.

865
00:52:38,449 --> 00:52:39,539
I love the work that I do too.

866
00:52:42,199 --> 00:52:43,209
Yeah, you're welcome.

867
00:52:43,679 --> 00:52:47,089
Um, so, so yeah, thank
you for having me today.

868
00:52:47,689 --> 00:52:49,459
I've loved being here.

869
00:52:49,794 --> 00:52:54,754
And so you can find me
online on Instagram.

870
00:52:55,104 --> 00:53:00,824
Um, it's your Y O U R under
underscore personal cheerleader.

871
00:53:00,854 --> 00:53:05,524
So Y O U R underscore personal
underscore cheerleader.

872
00:53:05,804 --> 00:53:11,304
Um, so Your Personal Cheerleader,
um, I, I believe that I am a

873
00:53:11,364 --> 00:53:16,164
personal cheerleader to cheer, um,
people on in their wellness goals.

874
00:53:16,454 --> 00:53:22,484
Um, I also have a free PDF that
is, um, yourwellnesscheckin.

875
00:53:22,514 --> 00:53:24,344
com, so yourwellnesscheckin.

876
00:53:24,634 --> 00:53:28,794
And it links to a free Facebook
group where I have weekly

877
00:53:28,804 --> 00:53:30,544
challenges, weekly weekends.

878
00:53:30,979 --> 00:53:34,579
And challenges to help us stay
on track during the weekend and

879
00:53:34,799 --> 00:53:38,039
make our weekend a strong end.

880
00:53:39,739 --> 00:53:41,789
Um, so that's a really
good place to start.

881
00:53:41,919 --> 00:53:42,999
You can join my monthly

882
00:53:45,369 --> 00:53:46,229
check in challenge.

883
00:53:50,019 --> 00:53:54,709
That's part of my personal coaching
program, where you're going to get all

884
00:53:54,709 --> 00:53:56,799
the tools, the workouts, the nutrition.

885
00:53:57,189 --> 00:53:58,519
You can start with the free.

886
00:53:59,319 --> 00:54:03,289
And check out your, um,
your, um, wellness check in.

887
00:54:03,699 --> 00:54:04,029
com.

888
00:54:05,539 --> 00:54:05,989
Perfect.

889
00:54:06,019 --> 00:54:12,209
And I always do post all of the resources
and links to my guests on my website.

890
00:54:12,219 --> 00:54:15,919
So go to prism healing.

891
00:54:16,159 --> 00:54:18,199
com to find me.

892
00:54:18,424 --> 00:54:23,234
My website and my services and then
you will see a link to my blog at

893
00:54:23,234 --> 00:54:29,984
the top and my blog is just a, um,
a recap and summary of every episode

894
00:54:29,984 --> 00:54:31,744
that I have done on Practically Magic.

895
00:54:31,804 --> 00:54:36,814
And I always post the resources, the
links to listen and watch the episode.

896
00:54:37,454 --> 00:54:41,754
Um, and so if you're listening and you're
like, I want more of this, I want to know

897
00:54:41,764 --> 00:54:44,534
where else I can find more information
about this, I will post as much

898
00:54:44,534 --> 00:54:46,534
information as I can there and update it.

899
00:54:47,084 --> 00:54:48,794
If new information happens to come up.

900
00:54:48,804 --> 00:54:51,224
So go there first.

901
00:54:51,224 --> 00:54:53,354
And then you can always
find me on social media too.

902
00:54:53,374 --> 00:54:59,324
Prism healing, um, Instagram prism
underscore healing, um, Facebook,

903
00:54:59,544 --> 00:55:04,024
Courtney pearls, prism healing,
um, tick tock at prison healing.

904
00:55:04,334 --> 00:55:07,064
Uh, just look up prison healing.

905
00:55:07,064 --> 00:55:09,694
I'm sure I'll come up in
some aspect or another.

906
00:55:10,224 --> 00:55:13,164
Um, and I will always, you
know, do a good throwback.

907
00:55:13,214 --> 00:55:14,534
Uh, you'll see some clips.

908
00:55:14,899 --> 00:55:20,919
From this episode so that you'll know
when Shannon is on and, um, yeah,

909
00:55:20,949 --> 00:55:25,209
we'll do a lot of, uh, cross promoting
for each other to make sure that

910
00:55:25,209 --> 00:55:28,149
you get access to all of the things
that we've mentioned here today.

911
00:55:29,749 --> 00:55:30,179
All right.

912
00:55:31,799 --> 00:55:33,299
Do you have anything else
that you want to share?

913
00:55:33,299 --> 00:55:36,279
Any events or special things
that are coming up for you?

914
00:55:36,279 --> 00:55:37,419
All

915
00:55:45,499 --> 00:55:45,879
right.

916
00:55:45,879 --> 00:55:50,699
So I want to think so at the beginning
of December, every first month.

917
00:55:50,774 --> 00:55:52,934
Every

918
00:55:56,894 --> 00:56:02,874
first Monday of the month, I
have a new challenge coming up.

919
00:56:03,184 --> 00:56:07,784
So the, in December, we're doing a
dance and healthy dessert challenge.

920
00:56:08,134 --> 00:56:09,594
So that's going to be really fun.

921
00:56:09,624 --> 00:56:14,224
And then we're kicking off the new
year with a New Year's challenge.

922
00:56:15,184 --> 00:56:16,084
Yes.

923
00:56:16,244 --> 00:56:16,954
Oh my gosh.

924
00:56:16,974 --> 00:56:19,064
And I love treats and I love dancing.

925
00:56:19,074 --> 00:56:20,744
So I'm excited for December.

926
00:56:20,814 --> 00:56:21,654
That's perfect.

927
00:56:23,154 --> 00:56:24,014
I can't wait for that.

928
00:56:24,674 --> 00:56:25,064
Yeah.

929
00:56:25,074 --> 00:56:29,854
Shannon is very good at posting
and, uh, and keeping up with all

930
00:56:29,854 --> 00:56:31,044
of the people that she's coaching.

931
00:56:31,064 --> 00:56:35,274
I am getting messages more so than I can
even respond to, but it's still always

932
00:56:35,274 --> 00:56:40,034
helpful to have those reminders, the
text messages and the Facebook group.

933
00:56:40,064 --> 00:56:43,934
And I'm like, Oh yeah, I need to do this
or I need to keep on track with that.

934
00:56:44,284 --> 00:56:49,164
So, uh, I just got to get, get
back into my routine so I can keep

935
00:56:49,164 --> 00:56:53,134
engaging with those posts, but thank
you so much Shannon, and I would

936
00:56:53,134 --> 00:56:57,664
like to thank our sponsors, Ride
the Wave Media is our producer.

937
00:56:58,664 --> 00:57:04,924
And if you are interested in sponsoring
the show or being mentioned on the show

938
00:57:04,994 --> 00:57:11,484
as a special thing, you can get ahold of
me and we will make sure we highlight you.

939
00:57:12,874 --> 00:57:17,084
So, thank you again, and do
magic, witches and wizards.