Self-Care as Resistance: Lessons from Baba Yaga

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Hi and welcome to Practically Magic.

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This is Courtney Pearl.

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I'm a pagan witch, card reader, healer, spiritualist, Celtic priestess, teacher, artist, and mystic seeker.

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I'm discovering true magic in the world and I wish to bring that and share it with you.

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Today we're going to start our episode by pulling a card.

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We start each and every episode with divination practice.

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I have my tarot deck here with me today.

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I'm using the witch's wisdom deck, and I'm wondering if this card I'm about to pull is going to have anything to do with our Episode topic today, or if it's just going to be quite simply a message for whoever needs to hear this.

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I know that I've been kind of going through my paces lately.

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This last month has really kicked my butt and I am just coming to a lot of new awarenesses about myself.

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Um, new awarenesses on how I want to continue running my business and where I want to focus my energy.

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And so if this card has any resonation with you in that subject, maybe it's just for me, maybe it's for those of you listening.

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Um, we're going to find out what the cards say, what they need us to know today.

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And in the witch's wisdom deck, I have pulled the card.

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This is the Goddess of Fire.

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I love this card.

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This is such a cool deck, but I have only really begun to experiment with it, because I keep getting a lot of the same cards pulled, no matter how many times I shuffle.

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And I had this card, uh, not too long ago at one of my Tarot for Tips events.

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I do at some of the local coffee shops around here.

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Um, this is where I just kind of get it.

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People around here understand what divination and card reading is really all about.

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Um, I live in an area where it's, um, you either feel one way or the other about it.

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And I'm hoping to kind of bring some.

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light to what tarot readings and what card readings are really all about.

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And, uh, so I was doing this tarot for Tim's event and I pulled this card for a friend of mine and maybe this is exactly the card that I needed.

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She had been asking about relationships.

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And in this case, I think what I've been really focusing on right now is What am I really doing? How much am I spending my energy on certain things with my business or being able to grow my business? Or should I take a step back and kind of take it easy? And this particular card has the image of Baba Yaga.

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I don't know if any of you know the story of Baba Yaga.

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She's um, she's a witch in sort of the Scandinavian Nordic area of the world.

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I want to say she's a Russian.

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Predominantly Russian, uh, character that you'll hear in folklore, but she's a witch that a lot of people are afraid of.

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But in a lot of the stories that I've heard about her, she's actually very helpful.

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She might be rough around the edges.

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She lives alone in the woods.

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She's a little bit scary.

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She has a house on chicken legs, which you can see in the background of this card.

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And legend has it that she lives in the woods.

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a house and around the house is a fence made entirely of bones of the children that she's eaten or cooked, um, or killed, people that she's killed.

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And it has skulls on this fence posts with light, um, an eerie flame inside each of the skulls.

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So they kind of light up the night, the darkness.

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But in this image, she's stirring a giant cauldron on a fire.

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outside and there's stones gathered all the way around it and there's a big stone that she's sitting on and she's stirring this big pot of stew or whatever it is that she's cooking there and then she has some empty bowls stacked up right next to her.

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There's like five empty bowls and it's almost like it gives the impression that she's She's expecting somebody for dinner.

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Like maybe someone's coming.

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Um, but she, she has been known in some of her stories, Baba Yaga will eat entire feasts of meal, of food with just herself, just by herself.

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She'll cook up this entire feast, but then she'll just sit at the table and you'll see her just.

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Eat the entire thing herself and whoever her guest is, she might give them scraps, but she is capable of feasting all by herself.

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So I get this impression as I look at this card that When we're preparing something, when we are putting a lot of work and effort into something, whether it's in a relationship or business or our just our very lives, whatever it is that we're doing.

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And we maybe feel like there may be people coming to this table to share this meal with me, but there may not be.

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And it doesn't make the effort that I'm putting into it any less if it's just for me.

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And this was a message I particularly needed to hear today because I was just having conversations with friends where I was like, Oh my gosh, I feel like everything that I'm doing, social media posts about my workshops or, you know, things that I've got going on.

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And, Not really seeing the results of people signing up for these things and, um, you know, having been offering them every month for a year, a year and a half now, and just kind of wondering when I can stop putting so much effort into trying to promote these things and seeing that there is some results, like, You know, people are actively signing up for it or there's word of mouth.

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There's a lot of buzz and people are kind of seeking me out to sign up for my things and to book sessions with me and things that I'm doing.

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And I was just feeling really discouraged because I felt like the effort and energy I was putting out into it.

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wasn't necessarily being seen or responded to with the same amount of energy and enthusiasm.

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So, you know, nobody can continue in that cycle for very long without being burnt out without feeling a little bit discouraged.

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But I think this card is telling me that the focus I really need to have is more on why I'm doing this.

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Am I doing this so that I have a lot of people signed up and I make money or I You know, can, can break even or what is it that I'm doing? Um, of course I would like to make money.

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I would like to provide for myself and I would like to, to see that what efforts I'm putting in are becoming successful monetarily as well, but.

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Because we live in a capitalist society, and even if I don't believe that the capitalist society is the best way to have a society, I still have to operate within that society.

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So I would like to, um, see that become a success.

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But also I, when I really think about what is worth all the effort I put into something, I really love seeing what it does for people.

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When I have a new client book a session that might be emotional processing, or that might be, um, you know, coming to one of my healing through art workshops.

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When I get to share what it is I do, share my knowledge, share my experiences, and to watch them go through that experience.

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And like I said before, I'm not, doing it for them.

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They're doing it for themselves.

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But with my guidance and being able to contribute to that and, and to walk them through that, there is absolutely nothing greater.

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Nothing that makes me feel like I'm in the right profession.

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I'm doing the right thing.

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When I see someone experience these aha moments for themselves, they gain self awareness.

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They're, they're, they're bringing forward things that They want to actively change and it will align them with who they want to be.

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And I have had so many great experiences with clients and with, um, with people who've signed up for my classes and workshops and when they get to experience what it is that I walk through them through, I, there's just no greater joy to me than seeing them light up and to walk out of there going, Oh, that was amazing.

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I feel great.

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Oh, what a beautiful.

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cool thing that I just got to do and everybody should be doing this.

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And that's a great feeling.

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And I just really want to share that out there.

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So if you needed to hear that today, this card is telling us, me and you, that what we're really doing, whatever effort we're putting into it, we're doing it for ourselves.

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And we're doing it, whether people show up for it or not, we're doing it because it's so important.

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And we are going to feast on the product of whatever it, whatever it produces.

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Just like Baba Yaga sitting here stirring this pot of stew, this potion, or this feast, or whatever she's making.

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She's not just making it for other people to show up and eat with her.

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She's going to eat this and she's going to enjoy it whether there's people who show up or not.

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She's an independent woman of the wild.

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Forest.

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She lives in her house with on chicken legs and she doesn't need anybody else.

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She's got it all she needs right there within herself.

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So I'm going to take that message and I'm going to just see how that feels to me.

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And, um, I have a workshop coming up tomorrow, um, which will already have happened by the time this podcast is released, which is fine.

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Um, and I'm just, I'm just going to go and.

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Do it and whoever shows up for it shows up and who, and we're just going to have a great time.

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We're going to have so much fun.

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Even if it's just me and my own kids doing this kid's workshop.

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And if you're listening now, just know that I do have other workshops on the horizon every month.

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I do a healing through art workshop for adults and they do a kids heart smart art workshop where I walk people through their emotional experiences and we get to relate them with colors and story time.

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And I really think that I have something amazing to offer when I do those workshops.

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I, I truly do love what I do.

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So I would just like to see more people get to experience that.

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And speaking of that, our whole theme today for our episode is science.

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about self care.

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Self care is something we talk about so often.

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And, um, I could have done a lot of different stories to go along with the idea of self care, but one story I really want to bring forward is, um, a story from, I got from Circle Round and it is retold in that book, but I'm going to tell it kind of in my own version, in my own way.

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I'm not going to read it directly from the book.

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Um, but it's story of the Queen of Elfland.

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And it's a story of this.

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Scottish 13th century bard of Thomas the Rhymer, um, kind of an experience that he had.

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And in the story, it goes that Thomas was resting.

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He came to rest upon a hawthorn tree in May and hawthorn trees are said to be the May tree because they blossom and bloom in Scotland and in Europe.

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So he was being lulled to sleep by the buzzing bees around his head.

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And as he fell asleep, he was suddenly awoken by the sound of bells.

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And he looked out over the moors, the heather, through the bracken, and he saw a woman riding a horse coming closer to him.

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And she was riding a white horse with a silver mane, covered in bells.

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And that's what he heard ringing that woke him up.

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And she was the most beautiful woman he'd ever seen, because in all of these folklores and mythology, It's always the most beautiful woman you've ever seen.

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So she came closer to him and he stood up and he took his hat off and he bowed to her and she said, she addressed him by name and greeted him and he said, my lady goddess, you are the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.

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How may I be of service to you? And she says, Oh no, I'm not a goddess.

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I am the queen of Elfland.

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And I would like you to come with me and I would like you to serve me for seven years.

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And before he knew it, he was jumping on the back of her horse and they were riding and they were riding faster and faster and faster until it felt like they were faster than the very wind itself.

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And through the landscape, they came to, um, there was a water and he was, suddenly they were riding this horse over water, but the water was a water, ocean of blood.

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It was a red ocean.

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And they wrote and they wrote and they wrote until there was no more sun and no more moon and no more time.

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And the blood waters ran dry and then they were in a perpetual twilight.

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Just an endless cycle.

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A landscape that was neither day nor night.

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And he saw, as the horse came to a gallop and to a trot, he saw a giant apple tree.

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And he offered, My lady, please let me pick you an apple for you, because actually he was very hungry and thirsty and he was hoping that he would be able to stop and rest and get something to eat.

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And she said, Oh no, no, Thomas, you cannot eat any of the fruit here in this land.

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For to mortal human beings, this land is right on the border of life and death.

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So we are, we are too close to the other world, the dead.

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The world of the dead.

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You mustn't eat any fruit from that tree for it would be poisonous to you.

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And instead, let me feed you this bread and this wine that I have brought, and we can rest a while.

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And as he was resting, as he had filled his belly with the most delicious bread and wine he'd ever tasted, he rested his head on her lap and said, And she opened up his inner eye so that he could see, and she says, look, look with your inner eye out and you will see a road, a broad road.

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I will show you three wonders.

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And so he looked and he could see a broad road.

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And on either side of that road were lined with a marketplace, booths, of people selling every kind of goods, foods, textiles, everything you can imagine.

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And the road was filled with people.

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People were pushing and shoving each other out of the way to get to the, the things they were selling.

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They would gather as much clothing as possible.

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They would grab and grab and grab and put on beautiful silks and.

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Everything.

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And they were putting things on and once they had put something on, they would rush themselves to the next booth to put more on and then the food, they would eat the food, gorge themselves on food, delicious food, but They seemed to never be satisfied because they would eat and eat and eat and then they would run to the next booth and eat and eat and eat and keep eating and drinking.

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And then there was jewelry that they would grab and put on and they became so heavy with golden chains around their necks that they were stooped down to the ground.

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And Thomas asked, The elf queen, elf land queen, who, what is this road? And she says, this is the easy road.

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Some call it the road to paradise.

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The people, if you look very closely, they're never satisfied.

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This road has so much abundance and so much offered to them, but they are never satisfied with what they have.

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They always, always seek more.

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And then she says, now look again and see if you can see the narrow road.

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So he looks again with his inner eye and in sort of a dreamlike state, he can see this narrow road and the narrow road is lined with bushes and brambles.

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And the road is only wide enough for about one person to fit through.

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And there are people walking this road, but even as they try to squeeze through the bushes and the thorns and the brambles, they are being scratched.

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Their arms and legs are scratched bloody.

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So much pain and suffering happening.

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And even as they walk, they are hungrier and hungrier and they become like skeletons.

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He can see they're so skinny and so scratched up.

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They look like skeletons walking on this road.

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And he asks the Elf Queen, what is this road? And she says, this is the the hard road.

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Some people call it the road of righteousness.

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And he realized that the people who thought that they needed to be on this road would never be satisfied either, because there was nothing to eat and nothing to drink and nothing but pain and suffering.

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And then she says, now look again at the third road.

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And so he looks again in the third road is neither wide or narrow.

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Um, and the people who are walking on this road, they look as though they are shimmering with color.

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They are just glowing with all the colors of the rainbow.

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And every once in a while on this road, there will be a, an apple tree or an orange tree.

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Um, and when the people reach the trees, they reach up and they grab one fruit and they eat it and they are completely filled and nourished by this, this offerings.

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So they walk this road and they just glow brighter and brighter as they walk.

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And Thomas asked Elf Queen again, what is this road? And she says, this is the road to Elfland.

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This is the road that we are going to take.

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And when you reach Elfland, you must promise not to speak a single word.

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For if you speak even one word, you will never be See your home again.

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You will be stuck there.

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But if you will serve me and not speak one word for seven years, I will show you many wonders.

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And then you will return back to your world, and you can share those wonders.

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You will remember everything you saw, and you can tell those stories when you go.

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Go back.

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And so that is what he did.

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Thomas went on that road with the Elf Queen.

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He spoke not one single word for seven years.

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He watched with his eyes and he listened with his ears and he took in every wonder and sight that he could see.

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And after seven years, he laid his head down on the Queen's lap to sleep.

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And when he awoke, he was again under the same Hawthorne tree where she found him.

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And he woke up.

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dressed in fine Elfland clothing, and which was green and gold, and he could remember everything he saw.

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And from then on, he went all over sharing the stories.

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of Elfland and the wonders that he saw there.

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And the reason for this story and the subject we're going to talk about a little today is the idea that rest and self care is quite honestly the best form of activism against oppressive sort of systems that we have in place in our world.

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The systems in place that tell us, which I talked a little bit about in my masculine and feminine episode a few episodes back, you go back in my episodes.

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Um, I highly recommend listening to that episode because we talk about how our society has been mostly masculine driven.

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And yes, that means men have been in power and in charge, but that doesn't just mean men because masculine is an energy type, not just a gender.

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So when I talk about masculine energy, I'm talking about an entire energy that exists within our world and what exists within each and every individual person.

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And so a capitalist society like we have is run on the idea that we need production and as much as possible, it encourages us to lower costs and to make as much money as possible.

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And when money is kind of the driving force of the economy, when we have this, um, kind of consumerism, uh, system in place, um, there always, always will need to be.

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And in our case, that class we take advantage of in order to make capitalism work is migrant workers, people of color, and the free and cheap labor of people of color and women.

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In my last episode, I touched on this a little bit as we started talking about witch trials and witch burnings.

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And yes, I did thorough research on witches and why witches are burned and what is the point and all of the things.

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But when I really came down to it, once I had done all that research, I realized how much of it is that when we sexualized labor into there's domestic labor, that is predominantly the women are going to be in charge of that.

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And we're going to make that women's work.

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And then we're going to sexualize.

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production, making the money.

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We're going to make that for the men.

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What we did is we built a society on the free labor of women.

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That their labor is no longer seen as equal labor in the household.

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Which in a feudalist society that was kind of, even as the serfs were the lower class, the men and the women serfs, whatever labor that they were doing, whether it was working in the garden, working on their, um, farm or their property, um, raising the children, raising the animals, taking care of things, women's work and men's work, it didn't matter because it was all valued in that it was all labor contributing to the success and survival of the community.

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When things were kind of evolved into capitalist society, we changed that to make it so that there were still systems in place that took advantage of certain people.

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Of course, there was slavery, which just basically picked a race or color or ethnicity of people and said, they deserve to be our slaves.

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They deserve to, for some reason, be free labor for us to be able to succeed and to have, uh, have all of these privileges and perks that we have.

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And if you are one who believes that slavery ended in the Civil War in our country, um, I would have to point out that you might be quite naive to think that the Civil War ended slavery, because it absolutely did not.

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And what that created is a society where production and Um, how much you can get done in a day.

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Um, how you can show up for like, look at how much I'm worth person, how much value I have in this family, in this society.

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in this relationship because of how much I got done.

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And that perpetuates that just on and on and on.

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So I'm not here to really talk about capitalism and whether that's good or bad, or what we should do instead, or any of that, which I could do for another hour or so.

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But what I really want to talk about is that there have been movements Against that idea that has said, we're not going to allow people to be taken advantage of, we're going to let the world know how our labor shows up as productive.

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Now people of color, this This is predominantly happening with them.

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When I first discovered, uh, the NAP ministry, and if you haven't looked it up, I found it on Instagram first and their movement is all about people of color, um, the black community saying, we are not going to be taken advantage of anymore and used for cheap or free labor.

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We are, we are going to.

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rest.

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We are going to value rest.

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And they quite literally mean take a nap.

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So it's called the Nap Ministry.

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And I absolutely love this idea.

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Um, and I will let people of color have the credit for that.

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And I will direct you to them and I will say, please support anything that gives them a voice, um, as an activist and an ally.

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Um, but one thing that as a woman, I love the movements that take the labor of women when they are stay at home moms or when they are working moms, but still do predominantly most of the labor that is required at home and the child raising, that they are taking kind of taking back the value that they hold.

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Um, I have a good friend who, she did this entire Instagram series where she documented everything she does throughout her typical weeks and months and how much time she spent on it and how much the average person would be paid for that labor.

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And when she goes grocery shopping, meal planning, um, schedule keeping, uh, when she's doing her children's schedules and taking control of their educational, you know, what they need educationally.

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She documented every minute she spent so that she could see, she could show that if this was put into a monetary value, this is how much I would be worth.

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And it is really important to understand that we've taken advantage of women's labor, especially in institutions like religion.

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Let me just say without dispute, the Mormon church would not exist.

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Literally could not exist as big as an organization it is, and it's a billion dollar organization.

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It could not do anything that it does without free labor of women that they depend highly on women to be doing, you know, to take on callings with no pay and to be able to volunteer their time and to put together meal trains and to, you know, organize events and, and all of the things that they do.

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Not to mention that they put it on the women to teach their children church doctrine and make sure that their children are going to church.

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And they put a lot of guilt on women because they say, you know, if there's an empty seat at your table in heaven, how would you feel mothers? If you were not doing your part to make sure your children stay true to the faith and come to church and become active members as adults and all of the things.

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Um, and so I want to highlight that because it's just a small smidge or example of what is actually existing in a wider sense in our entire, entire society in America and the world.

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If you think about how, um, um, You know, as women, um, the professions that most women tend to gravitate towards because it will be, they're told, I was told, would be a really good profession as a mother.

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Um, I went into teaching probably 70 percent of the reason I went into becoming a teacher first was because I thought, well, that's a great profession to have when you have children.

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You know, I can have young children and teach and there's still going to be plenty of time to be a good mother and to, um, and even, um, while my kids are in school, I'll be at the same school teaching.

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So I'll be available and I'll be present in their lives while, um, I'm, I have a career.

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That turned out to not be the case at all.

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Now, if teaching and nursing is any kind of an example of like how we are depending highly on women's cheap labor, if it's mostly women in the teaching profession, especially in elementary schools, are we paying them for their worth? Are they making a salary that's really equal to the energy that it takes to do teaching? Not even close.

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Not even close.

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So why do they keep doing it? Why are women still showing up for those jobs? Men won't take those jobs.

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I mean, clearly they've looked at it and said, that's not worth my time taking care of kids all day and teaching them.

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And I'm only going to make that much a year.

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No, that's totally not worth it.

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So why are women doing it? Because they will, because they care about those children and because they actually have a relationship with the idea that we are raising the next generation of human beings in our society.

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That is an incredibly, incredibly important position to take and they'll take it for less money because they know how important it is to do that job.

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No, they burn out quickly.

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It's no surprise that statistically most teachers do not stay in the profession longer than five.

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Or even 10 years that they burn out.

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Eventually the energy they're putting into that job is not what they're getting back monetarily.

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So they are going to, um, you know, probably quit when they have their own children, or they're probably going to find a new career if they're not making enough.

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Um, it's definitely what I did.

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I loved being a teacher when I was a teacher.

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I loved it.

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Um, but I did reach a point where I was like, I would never make enough to equate what I was putting into it.

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And just the one year that I did teach when I had a son at home to take care of, I honestly have so much respect and sympathy for anyone who is trying to hold that career and that space, putting as much effort into it as you do, as we do as teachers to.

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Make teaching engaging and fun and creative and fulfilling and trying to meet the needs of all your students and, and also to meet all of the criteria that the administration is asking you to do to follow curriculum and meet the objectives and testing and all of the crap they put teachers through.

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It's ridiculous.

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They're putting students through this and it doesn't actually have anything to do with education, but my point is.

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As I go on this rant about teaching is that that is a great example of how we are really kind of benefiting as a whole society.

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Even those of us who don't have children, we are still benefiting from the free and cheap labor of those lower class citizens.

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So capitalism really can't exist without them.

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They can't exist without those lower classes.

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And we take advantage.

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So self care in and of itself throughout your day to day life, when you take moments of saying, this is going to be an hour or 15 minutes or an entire day where I am not planning on getting anything done.

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I am going to take the day off.

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I'm going to rest.

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I am going to do less.

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I am going to barely, you know, make sure that, um, you know, if I'm, if I'm a stay at home mom or I'm, you know, parent or taking care of my kids, I'm going to go.

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I am going to be perfectly, perfectly okay with doing the bare minimum today because I deserve that because my worth does not tie in to, um, resting.

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And if that triggers you, if I'm saying words like, your worth is not dependent on how much you can get done in a day.

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Your worth does not depend on your accomplishments or, uh, promotions or sales numbers or whatever.

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Your worth as a person does not rely on that.

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And there is some sticky cell inside you that hears those words and styles.

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But I've got to, well, I'm going to invite you to listen to that, to take that information in and say, Hmm, isn't that interesting that I had that reaction to those words? Isn't it interesting that there is some part of me somewhere deep down inside that does believe my worth is tied to what I can get done? And let me ask you this question.

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How many of you, as, um, if you were maybe this, the mom that stays home, or you're the dad that works from home or you're, you know, whatever it is.

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Um, maybe you're just home for the day and your spouse was out working for the day or something.

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Um, how many of you like hang out on the couch, watch TV, kind of play on your phone, take a minute, scrolling, whatever.

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But when you hear the garage door open, you're like, Oh, shoot.

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I need to prove to my spouse somehow that I wasn't just sitting here doing nothing, that I was working hard, right? Like if you start getting off the couch and you run and you try to like clean something up real quick, we all do it.

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I absolutely have some very deep rooted belief systems that have been passed on to me for generations that say, That time spent sitting around kind of chilling or just doing whatever or having stillness and peace and actually putting my phone down, turning the TV off, just having absolute quiet time and nothing this time.

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That's okay.

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It's okay to have that.

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It's actually good for you.

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And so my husband and I, and actually some friends, and actually some of the emotional processes that I've been doing with clients lately have all been revolving around this idea that when you take time for yourself, what actually fills you.

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And I'm not talking about just scrolling on your phone, because sometimes we do that thinking it's self care.

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But I have one expert that I was listening to, um, on another podcast that was saying, That's actually, like, faux self care.

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That, that sort of like, Um, she called it like junk self care.

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So there's certain self care that is actual self care and there's self care that is like, um, I just got so burned out and stressed that I'm going to sit here and scroll on my phone mindlessly for an hour and then feel kind of crappy about it afterwards because I'm like, well, that was a huge waste of time.

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I didn't get anything done and I don't really feel better.

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So I want you to think about that when I say self care.

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Something that makes you feel really fulfilled, really recharged.

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Maybe it's a bath, maybe it's a night out with friends, whatever it is.

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But if you're not doing that enough in your life, what starts to happen or what starts to show up is that if you're not holding a space for yourself, putting your own oxygen mask on first, as people like to say, you are not able to hold space for anyone else in your life.

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What will show up in relationships, um, or at your job or, um, with your children or parenting, whatever it is, you're going to start to see judgment creeping and resentment.

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You're going to feel those feelings of irritation, and you're going to be a lot less capable of holding any space for anyone else, especially if someone in your life needs you.

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To hold space for them, right? Like they're having a hard day or they're going through a lot or they come to you with certain needs.

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Your children, your spouse, your boss, they're going to come to you and you're going to be like, I can't even.

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I am so stressed and so burned out.

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I am not able to hold anything for you.

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When you take time for self care, when you carve it out, when you schedule it and you plan for it and you hold boundaries around it.

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Let's say, no, this is too important.

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I must have this time.

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I must have these breaks.

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I must have meditation.

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I must be able to work out.

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I must be able to have these personal time, these times for me.

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Then when something happens, when you are needed, You are able to be there for others.

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So self care is a hundred percent not selfish.

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It is so that you can accomplish the relationships.

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You can have the relationship you really want to have.

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You can have more alignment in the life purpose you feel yourself to be.

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So if your job is really the job you're passionate about and you want to show up really great at it, you really can do that when you have given yourself the space.

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for self care first.

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And I did mention the NAP ministry, but one of the book clubs I was in recently, um, last year was, uh, we were reading the book, The Wander Society, which is all about kind of battling consumerist culture and being able to be like, Hey, what if instead of stuff, what, instead of buying things to, um, to fulfill us or even filling our schedule full of things to do.

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What if instead we took time in our lives for wandering? And in that book, they're literally talking about going out and wandering, which I love, but I do think wandering is an idea, not just an action, not just something that you do.

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I think you can wander while staying at home.

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I think wandering to me is completely unplanned Unscheduled time that you allow yourself.

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And maybe that's time that you're spending with your family.

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And maybe it's time you're spending alone, but it's time that you have nothing on the to do list.

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You go, okay, whatever I've got on my to do list that is completely set aside for another time and this time there's nothing, no schedule, no plan.

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It's just wondering.

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It's just, what do I feel like doing right now? What does my body want? When we get in touch with our own intuition and our own body and ask ourselves, what do I want? You might be surprised to find out that you don't even know.

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Okay, I have an hour, an hour of unscheduled time.

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What do I want to do with it? You might find yourself wanting to reach for your phone, which is normal because we're all addicted to our phones, but you might find yourself going.

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Oh my gosh, I am feeling like I want to move my body.

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I'm going to turn on some music and dance, or I just want to go for a walk and see things.

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I want to feed my eyes and my brain with images to inspire me and to feel artistic and creative.

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I want to take my inner child self out for a little date for ice cream.

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My inner child self is saying, I never got ice cream when I was little, so I want some right now.

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Or my, I might want to go to the dollar store, and just look around and see if there's something like stickers that would make me really happy.

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And just buy stickers, super cheap, but like, will bring me so much joy.

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Whatever it is.

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So, I want to invite you and I want to tell you to try this.

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Look at your schedule for the next week and I want you to schedule your self care time first, before you schedule anything else.

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And if you're like me, you've already got stuff on the schedule.

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This is something that I myself need to hear and need to do.

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I'm not telling you as a guru person, who's got it all figured out.

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I need to schedule self care.

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I have got myself so booked up.

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My to do list is forever long and I work for myself.

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And as I mentioned earlier in the, in the show, I'm not scheduling a whole lot of, um, clients right now.

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I wish I was more.

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So if that's the case, why am I so busy? I'm going to do this.

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You're going to do this.

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And then I would like you to engage with me on social media and tell me how it's going.

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Let me know, because I want to see what you guys find that when you, as an act of protest against the man and the system and all of the oppression, oppressive society things, I want you to say, I'm going to take this time out for nothingness.

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For complete nothingness.

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And by the way, if you are living in South Jordan and surrounding areas of South Jordan, one way to do this really well is to schedule yourself a salt float at Pure Sweat and Float.

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I did my float a couple of weeks ago and man, talk about an hour or even 40 minutes of nothing.

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That's a fantastic way to get absolutely nothing.

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Done.

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Check off the to do list.

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I did nothing.

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All right.

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So next week, I am so excited to dive into codependency patterns.

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And I do want to have my special friend, Brenda, Cridolfer, who is a relationship coach, talk a little bit about codependency patterns with me.

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So I'm going to schedule her as a guest interview, but before I have her on, I want to do an episode, just me kind of outlying what is codependency patterns and why Why we all suffer from it.

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Every single one of us, every single person listening.

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Uh, I had a question from a listener this week.

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So I'm going to touch on this real quick.

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I have somebody asked me, what about the Aurora that we just had recently? Um, we had the Northern lights were being, or were able to be seen in our part of the world and, um, people got up at midnight, 2am to take pictures of it.

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I did not.

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I have trouble sleeping as it is, so I'm not gonna wake up in the middle of the night.

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But man, the Northern Lights are one of my favorite things in the world.

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The colors of the Aurora and the Northern Lights are my favorite.

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So this question from a listener, she says, what do you think about that? What, what's the deal with that? And my answer to that is I'm sure someone like Cambria Davis, who is an astrologer can have a lot more insight into the effect that it has on us when something like that, an event like that is happening, but a hundred percent, something like that cannot be happening without some kind of effect on us.

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And I know for me, This last month has been a lot of, Who am I? What am I for? What am I trying to achieve? And am I aligned with my true self going forward with these projects? Or am I trying really hard to be somebody I'm not? And I really truly just want to show up as my authentic self.

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And that's where My Identity as a Witch has come to play here because I have been hesitant to call myself a witch at times.

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And as I mentioned in last week's episode, I kind of see it now as a really great way to, um, stand up for all of those women in those witch trials in history that were burned and hung for being witches when all they were is just women.

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Doing life.

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So if I call myself a witch because I practice witchcraft and because I do healing work and because I help people and because I want to be the person people go to when they need guidance and help and need to get in touch with their own guide within themselves, then I will gladly put on my witch's hat and claim that title.

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Now, I don't know what this has to do with the Aurora, but I do know that that is the energy that's been going through a lot of people recently.

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And so I do think it has an effect on people as far as how they feel they're showing up as themselves.

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And so, of course, From the work that I do, the colors are incredibly powerful.

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Having those blues, greens, purples in the sky, those colors represent to me a lot of love.

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A lot of reminder to people that the most important kind of love to work on first before seeking love in the world and from other people is to understand that love is felt within us.

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So I wanna challenge you to love yourself.

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To wake up every morning, look in the mirror and say, I love myself so much.

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I am going to make sure.

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That I don't over schedule and overwhelm myself.

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I'm going to take time to rest and to have immense, immense increase in self compassion that whatever way I show up in the world and whatever I'm doing, it's enough.

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I am doing enough.

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I am enough and repeat that to yourself every day as you schedule these self care times.

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In order to get in touch with me, I need you to follow me on Instagram at prism underscore healing.

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Give me a like, give me a follow, give me a share, give me a shout out.

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Please private message me any questions that you have that you would like to Ask me for the podcast or just in general, but I would love more engagement on social media.

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And you can do that for me.

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That is one free, free way to support me.

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Find me on Instagram, follow me, comment on my stuff, engage with me.

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I would be grateful.

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Immensely thrilled because it would, it would give me a little bit of that feedback.

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I'm looking forward to say what you're doing, Courtney, is worth it.

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You are doing something and you are helping at least one person.

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I would also love to see you on Facebook.

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I'm Courtney Pearl and I'm on Courtney Pearl's Prism Healing on Facebook.

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Um, I have some events coming up.

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I do a tarot for tips event every month.

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I will be doing healing through art workshops and my heart smart art workshop, which is the one I have going on tomorrow.

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That is super fun for kids and adults.

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So you can find that all of my events.

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on my website.

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That is prism healing.

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com.

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Please go to prism healing.

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com to book any private sessions with me.

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I do emotional healing sessions.

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That is the integrative processing technique, which is going back to your inner child and doing some work there.

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If any of this self care conversation today left you with a little bit of a sticky, uh, sticky cell, like a little triggered, then emotional processing is absolutely for you.

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So please message me for a private session.

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I can do them over the phone from anywhere.

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So go to my website and you can also book a card reading, a Reiki session.

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Um, there's also a blog and on my blog, I have a blog post for each episode of Practically Magic.

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So There, I write the blogs myself.

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I only use AI when I absolutely need some ideas or have blogs, but I write them myself.

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I'm very proud of that.

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So, all of the resources, um, like the Knapp Ministry and the Wander Society that were discussed today's episode will be there on my blog on my website.

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So, Once again, please give me a shout out.

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Please go to my social media.

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You can find me on TikTok at Prism Healing.

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As long as TikTok is still here and not banned, find me on TikTok and follow me for all my weird and crazy witchy posts that I do.

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And I would love to see the followers and the views.

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And it would just give me that little boost of confidence that I need to say, Courtney, you're doing the right thing.

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Keep going.

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People are responding to it.

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So I hope to see you there.